If you live in the Glasgow area did you know that counselling can help you with suppressed anger just as much as anger, which is out of control?
Read on to find out more.
Are you emotionally stuffed? Full of anger that sits in your belly, stiffens your neck, or regularly ruins your mood?
If you tend to force anger inward, your understanding of it may be tricky. You may not even recognise that anger is at the heart of your trouble.
Do people describe you as sarcastic? Indifferent? Mean? Do you wonder why you do the things you do? Are you plagued by poor work performance, estranged relationships, or deliberate self-destruction?
Suppressed anger isn’t anger under control, though it may be tempting to think that hiding it somehow makes life easier.
Suppressed anger is really anger under pressure. Anger, squeezed inside, strains against your mind and body. It weakens and wears you down.
To protect yourself from anger-induced damage, be aware of the following conditions, disorders, and problems that may result.
Mental and Emotional Effects of Suppressed Anger
A continued pattern of burying your anger is emotionally unhealthy. It disconnects you from your emotions, and genuine relationships with other people. This can weigh heavily on your mind in the following key ways:
Depression: Suppressed anger may cause you to feel alone and withdrawn. The hard work of keeping anger pushed down is mentally taxing, and may drive a wedge between you and others. You may feel lonely, hopeless and emotionally spent as well.
Anxiety: Fear may compel you to bottle up your anger. Perhaps you were told to “suck it up” as a child, not to make scenes, or show emotional weakness. You may feel decidedly tense or jumpy when tensions rise. An overwhelming desire to escape may take over as soon as you feel angry, or sense another person’s irritation.
Violence or Abuse: Bottled-up anger typically tends to explode. The fallout may be traumatic and damaging to yourself, and the people around you. Anything from verbally-abusive outbursts, controlling behavior, or criminal violence can result.
Addiction: Many people deal with inner emotional turmoil by abusing drugs, food, alcohol, the Internet, or trying other detrimental coping methods. Suppressed anger may drive you toward unhealthy or dangerous emotional escape.
Physical Effects of Suppressed Anger
Continuing a pattern of burying your anger is physically unhealthy. It damages the normal functioning of your body, and interrupts the quality of your life, directly and indirectly. This can take a heavy toll on your body in the following key ways:
Fatigue/ Chronic pain: Suppression is “forceful prevention.” Continually forcing yourself to hold anger inside takes ongoing energy and action. Knowingly and unknowingly you clench your fists, grind your teeth, and tense your shoulders. Emotional suppression can be draining and painful.
Digestive problems: The mind-gut connection is profound. The mental strain of holding anger inside places a strain on the gut. Gastrointestinal distress is a common symptom of a stressed mind and emotional state.
High blood pressure/ Cardiac disease: Studies show that anger has a significant amount of influence on heart and vascular health. Studies show that the risk of coronary artery disease is doubled, and heart attack risk is tripled, in patients with anger management issues.
Headaches/Migraines: According to a study of 422 subjects, clinical psychologist Robert A. Nicholson found that, beyond depression and anxiety, headache sufferers tended to suppress feelings of rage, which they referred to as “anger-in.”
Suppressed anger may be difficult to discern, but unresolved, it can do damage. Individual therapy and may help you get a handle on the source and focus of you anger.
Anger should not run your life, hiding from somewhere deep inside. Bring it out into the open. Put anger in its place and go in peace.
Interested in counselling for suppressed anger in the Glasgow area? Call today to set up a FREE 15 minute telephone consultation on 07970 860 711 or to book an initial appointment.