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counting-the-cost-of-uncontrolled-angerIf you are undecided about whether or not you need to do something to help you control your anger, it might be helpful to have a look at what your anger is costing you.

Uncontrolled anger can end up being costly, in several different areas of your life, including the following:

Relationship costs

If you regularly lose the rag in your relationships, you may end up paying a high price in terms of damaged and broken relationships.

Expressing yourself in an aggressive manner to your partner, can lead to several negative outcomes. The more you shout, swear, blame, criticise, put down, threaten, slam doors, destroy property, the more your partner may end up withdrawing from you, for their own safety and sanity.

Living with a time bomb is no fun, and can lead to partners feeling as though they are walking on eggshells, in order not to “upset” the other person.

It goes without saying that living like this is very stressful, miserable and exhausting.

There may come a time when a partner may decide that enough is enough, that they can’t take anymore, and want to end their relationship with you.

There are some situations where both partners like to give as good as they get. In terms of couple fit, this is known as “cat and dog”.

However, aggressive arguing often becomes an unfulfilling way of living where nothing is ever resolved, and the end result is loss of respect, and a mountain of hurt feelings and resentment.

In addition to living with an angry partner, having a parent who regularly blows up can be very unsettling and harmful for children. It could actually be viewed as a form of emotional abuse, which can have a negative impact well into adulthood.

Regular outbursts of anger can also have a negative impact on other relationships with family and friends.

Career costs

In some lines of work, such as more male dominated environments, it may be acceptable for staff to express their anger freely.

However, in the majority of workplaces, angry outburst towards management, co-workers, and customers is unlikely to be tolerated.

As well as making people wary of you, and less likely to want to collaborate with, or work beside you, uncontrolled anger could also lead to being overlooked for promotion, disciplinary proceedings, and ultimately dismissal.

Health costs

Blowing up on a regular basis could be having a significant impact on your health.

It could seriously affect you in some of the following ways, such as:

  • High blood pressure
  • High cholesterol
  • Feeling tired and lacking energy
  • Alcohol issues
  • Accidents/injuries both at work and on the road

Personal costs

If you get angry often, it can also lead to you paying a high cost on a personal level, in terms of how you end up feeling about yourself.

While it might feel great to let it all out, whenever you feel the urge to, how you end up feeling afterwards, may be far from good.

Some of the feelings you might experience include guilt, shame, embarrassment, awkwardness, wanting to hide away, anxiety, feeling down, and sad.

The law

Uncontrolled anger could also lead you to getting into trouble with the law, and consequently, have serious consequences.

Depending on what you are found guilty of, charges can run from breach of the peace, to much worse.

Being charged, and waiting for your case to come to court, can be a very stressful, and drawn out process. And standing trial is not an experience most people relish.

You may end up with a criminal record, paying a fine, carrying out community service, attending anger management classes, or losing your freedom, by having to serve a prison sentence.

Therefore, if you think that the cost of your uncontrolled anger is mounting up, maybe it is time for you to consider ways of controlling it better, before it ends up controlling you, and impacting negatively on your health, happiness, relationships, and career.

Call Neil Ward Counselling on 07970 860 711 today, for information on anger management counselling in Glasgow.




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