Resources to help you


Outside of a dog, a book is a man’s best friend. Inside of a dog it’s too dark to read. Groucho Marx


Recommended Reading about Marriage

Why Marriages Succeed or Fail by John Gottman

Intimate Partners by Maggie Scarf

Seven Principles for Making Marriages Work by John Gottman and Nan Silver

Divorce Bustin by Michele Weiner-Davis

Getting the Love You Want by Harvill Hendrix

Fighting for Your Marriage by Howard Markam et al

The Hard Questions by Susan Piver

Reconcilable Differences by Andrew Christensen and Neil Jacobson


Recommended Reading about Love and Intimacy

Love is Never Enough by Aaron Beck

The Relationship Cure by John Gottman

The Triangle of Love by Robert Sternberg

The Dance of Intimacy by Harriet Lerner

The Dance of Connection by Harriet Lerner

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Keeping the Love You Find by Harville Hendrix


Recommended Reading about Sexuality

Becoming Orgasmic: A Sexual Growth Program for Women by Julia Heiman

Illustrated Manual of Sex Therapy by Helen Kaplan

Rekindling Desire by Barry and Emily McCarthy

The New Male Sexuality: A Guide to Sexual Fulfilment by Bernie Zilbergeld

For Women Only by Jennifer Berman et al

The New Joy of Sex by Alex Comfort

Making Love: A Man’s Guide by Barry White

Making Love: A Woman’s Guide by Judith Davis

Sexual Awareness: Enhancing Sexual Pleasure by Barry and Emily McCarthy

Male Sexual Awareness by Barry and Emily McCarthy

The Soul of Sex by Thomas Moore

What Really Happens in Bed by Stephen Carter et al

For Yourself: The Fulfilment of Female Sexuality by Lonnie Barbach


Recommended Reading about Bereavement and Grief

How to Survive the Loss of a Love by Melba Colgrove et al

How to Go on Living When Someone You Love Dies by Therese Rando

The Grief Recovery Handbook by John W James et al

Recovering from the Loss of a Child by Katherine Donnelly

When Bad Things Happen to Good People by Harold Kushner


Recommended Reading about Depression

The Mindful Way Through Depression by Mark Williams et al

When Living Hurts by Michael D Yapko

When Feeling Bad is Good by Ellen McGrath

Winter Blues: Seasonal Affective Disorder by Norman E Rosenthal

I Don’t Want to Talk About It by Terrence Real

Feeling Good by David Burns

Mind Over Mood by Dennis Greenberger et al


Recommended Reading about Anxiety

The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook by Edmund J Bourne

Mastery of Your Anxiety and Panic by Michelle G Craske et al

Mastering Your Fears and Phobias Workbook by Michelle Craske et al

The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook by Martin Anthont et al

The Dance of Fear by Harriet Lerner

Beyond Anxiety and Phobia by Edmund J Bourne

Don’t Panic by Susan Jeffers


Recommended Reading about Stress Management and Relaxation

The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Book by Martha Davis et al

Wherever You Go, There You Are by Jon Kabat-Zinn

The Stress and Relaxation Handbook: A Practical Guide to Self-Help Techniques by James Madders

The Relaxation Response by Herbert Benson

Beyond the Relaxation Response by Herbert Benson

Beginning Mindfulness by Andrew Weiss

Minding the Body, Mending the Mind by Joan Borysenko

Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers: A Guide to Stress, Stress-Related Disease and Coping by Robert M Sapolsky

A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook by Bob Stahl and Elisha Goldstein


Recommended Reading about Men’s Issues

Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood by William Pollack

Season’s of a Man’s Life by Daniel J Levinson

Being a Man: A Guide to the New Masculinity by Patrick Fanning et al

Masculinity Reconstructed by Ronald Levant

Man Enough: Fathers, Sons and the Search for Masculinity by Frank S Pitman

Victims No Longer by Michael Lew

Fire in the Belly by Sam Keen

Fatherloss: How Our Sons of All Ages Come to Terms With the Deaths of Their Dad’s by Neil Chethik


Recommended Reading about Anger Management

The Anger Control Workbook by Matthew McKay and Peter Rogers

The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner

Letting Go of Anger: The Ten Most Common Anger Styles and What to So About Them by Ron Potter-Efron and Pat Efron

Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion by Carol Travis

The Anger Workbook by Lorraine Bilodeau

Act on Life, Not on Anger by Georg H Eifert et al

Anger Management for Everyone by Raymond Chip Tafrate et al

When Anger Hurts by Matthew McKay et al

Rage: A Step-by-Step Guide to Overcoming Anger by Ron Potter-Efron

The Anger Workbook for Teens by Rachelle Cassada Lohmann

The Gift of Anger by Marcia Cannon

Anger Kills: Seventeen Strategies for Controlling the Hostility That Can Harm Your Health by Redford Williams et al


Reading About Communication and People Skills

Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud et al

You Just Don’t Understand: Men and Women in Conversation by Deborah Tannen

The Dance of Connection by Harriet Lerner

Intimate Strangers by Lillian Rubin

How to Communicate: The Ultimate Guide to Improving Your Personal and Professional Relationships by Matthew McKay et al

Shyness by Philip Zimbardo

Intimate Connections: The New Clinically Tested Program for Overcoming Loneliness by David Burns

Just Friends: The Role of Friendship in Our Lives by Lillian Rubin

People Skills by Robert Bolton

Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In by Roger Fisher et al

That’s Not What I Meant! How Conversational Styles Makes or Breaks Relationships by Deborah Tannen

Opening Up: The Healing Power of Confiding in Others by James Pennebaker

Difficult People: How to Deal With Impossible Clients, Bosses and Employees by Robert Cava

Coping With Difficult People by Robert Bramson

Games People Play by Eric Berne


Recommended reading about Spiritual and Existential Concerns

Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl

Finding Flow: The Psychology of Engagement with Everyday Life by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

When All You Ever Wanted Isn’t Enough by Harold Kushner

Peace, Love and Healing by Bernie Segel

The Road Less Travelled by M Scott Peck

Further Along the Road Less Travelled by M Scott Peck

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle

Care of the Soul by Thomas Moore