No one wants to lose.
But eventually we all do.
Something makes us mourners.
Deaths, breakups, layoffs, an empty womb, or an empty nest.
Someday, something forces us to let go of someone or something we really wanted, dearly loved, or hoped to keep.
So, how do you recover when the realities of your loss seem too difficult, too lonely, too disappointing, or too surreal?
Bereavement counselling may be the support you need to manage the host of feelings brought on by grief.
A bereavement counsellor knows that your grief is specific to you.
Your experience is not about stages, models, or checklists.
Whether you experience denial, depression, or some measure of guilt, your grieving process is your own. You have the right to grieve your way.
Bereavement counselling is simply a way to share your pain, learn to cope, and put the worst of your pain to rest as you come to acceptance.
Bereavement counselling doesn’t rush or scold you.
Your loss signals a period of transition, churning emotions, and constant reminders of what will never be. A counselling environment that allows you to mourn at your own pace is crucial.
Your counsellor will help you talk through your feelings without judgment or pressure. You will grieve in a safe place, with a patient person, who has no wish to make you conform to outside ideas of “proper” bereavement.
Bereavement counselling helps you find your own ways of coping.
The grieving process is a journey. Many bereaved people are overwhelmed by pain, while others are completely numbed by the loss.
People generally face common coping issues like temporary self-neglect, lashing out, and withdrawal. A lack of support may lead a person to turn to harmful coping mechanisms like substance abuse, reckless behavior, or even suicidal thoughts. Together, you and your counsellor can decide which coping methods are healthy and which are harmful for you.
Bereavement counselling helps you deal with lingering issues or unresolved feelings connected to the loss.
Sometimes bereavement is complicated by a negative or painful backstory. Your loss may have occurred during a trying time in your relationship. You may feel guilty for not making more of an effort preceding the loss.
Bereavement counselling is an accepting place to sort through those feelings. You may need to work through periods of depression, anxiety, and pain more related to your relationship rather than your loss. Bereavement counselling can help you settle and release unresolved pain.
Bereavement counselling supports you through significant events, and sentimental triggers.
Managing your memories following your loss is not easy. You may find yourself exhausted by the number of times you are emotionally blindsided by a significant date or memento. You may be drained by your efforts to avoid reminders of your future plans.
Bereavement counsellors understand your emotional highs and lows, listen to your recollections and disappointments, and validate the life you once had.
Bereavement counselling helps you accept, adjust, and advance your life.
Moving forward for the bereaved may be frightening. At the very least, it’s unfamiliar and strange to think of leaving your old life behind. Bereavement counselling allows you to vocalize you fears and concerns. It can provide guidance and tools for understanding your own needs and help you finds ways to reorganize your life and reinvest in yourself.
Bereavement counselling helps you find ways to memorialize a loved one or mark significant dates.
When you’re ready, your bereavement counsellor is a fitting person to help you plan ways to remember your loved one or loss meaningfully.
No one wants to lose, but when you do, bereavement counselling helps ease the pain.
You can find out more about bereavement counselling on this site. Or you can call Neil Ward on 07970 860 711 to arrange an initial counselling appointment.